Self-confident people are admired by others, and inspire confidence in others. They are risk takers who face challenges head-on. They know that whatever obstacles life throws their way, they have the ability to meander past them. They see their lives in the positive light and are satisfied with themselves. On the other hand, low self-confidence is like a being tied to a rock and pushed to the bottom of an ocean. People who have low self-esteem often lack confidence. They see the world as a hostile playing field where they are the victims. They are not able to assert or express themselves freely, and this kind of mentality feeds on itself. This is not a life sentence, though. The following techniques can be used to mitigate the situation and restore both self-esteem and confidence.
1. Stay away from negativity
It’s probably time to reshuffle your inner circle. That includes family, friends, and colleagues. Anyone who contributes negativity to your life needs to be shoved about. Think about that friend who always thinks poorly of you. That family member who tells you that you can’t really accomplish what you want. These people are contributing negative energy to your life, and that doesn’t help with confidence and self-esteem.
2. Think positively
The only way to truly get rid of negative thoughts is to replace them with positive thoughts. Most people lack confidence and self-esteem because their thoughts are extremely on the downside. Learn to be aware of the thoughts that you have for yourself. If you have a thought that’s telling you that you can’t really accomplish something, squash it and kill it dead. In its place, put a thought that says ‘I can do this!’ Get into the habit of acting on your positive thoughts. Have it in mind that action is key to developing self-confidence and esteem.
3. Dress nicely
Dress in clothes that make you feel good about yourself. You’ll feel ready to tackle the world. This doesn’t mean that you should wear $500 suits. Dressing nicely means different for different people. You know what works for you. Also, make it a point to groom yourself. That shower or shave can make a whole lot of difference regarding how you feel about yourself.
4. Get to know yourself
You can’t defeat any enemy without knowing him. To tackle your lack of self-confidence and self-esteem, you need to know yourself (the enemy) very well. Start paying attention to your thoughts. Write a journal about who you are, pointing out thoughts that you have about yourself. Analyze why you might have such inaccurate and negative thoughts. This done, think about the positive things that you can do, what you’re capable of. Are your limitations real or imagined? Dig deep, and take a course of action that will help you kill all the negativity in your life.
5. Speak slowly and stand tall
These simple things can make a huge difference regarding how people perceive you. Authoritative people speak slowly. It’s a sign of confidence. On the contrary, people who feel like they aren’t worth listening to will blurt out quickly. So get into the habit of speaking slowly (but don’t overdo it). It’ll make you feel more confident. If you have a horrible posture (like most non-confident people), work on it. Stand tall and straight. People who stand tall happen to be more confident.
6. Become more competent
Try something new. This is a must-do to boost your confidence and self-esteem. Study and practice. One small bit at a time. Set aside 30 minutes per day when you can learn something that’ll make you more competent. Set small goals and accomplish them. Once you can easily tackle small goals, you’ll be ready to shoot for the moon.
7. Stop Comparing Yourself
When you start comparing yourself and your life with other people’s lives, you have a very destructive habit in your hands. You’ll never ever come out at the top. There’s always someone who’s doing a lot better than you somewhere. You want to replace that habit with something else. Think about how far you’ve come. Focus on yourself. Compare you to yourself. Your own results. How can you improve these results? This raises your self-esteem and motivates you as well.
We can all feel more confident and have a high self-esteem. Just get started doing these simple things and you’ll be doing a lot better before you even know it.